Tips for Guiding Kids without Punishment

When the parents are told that harsh practices such as spanking, consequences and frequent time-outs do not help in disciplining the kids, most of them get surprised.

The matter of fact is that children tend to learn things which happen around them. So, if you want to teach your kid, you will have to put yourself as a role model in front of your kids. We all want our kids to be kind and compassionate to the others. How can they develop such traits if they are not taught about these characteristics? Surely punishment is not going to teach them the compassion and kindness. It doesn’t even teach the kids to behave and stay disciplined.

Now, there is another misconception. Even the peaceful parents think about time-out as the perfect way to punish the kids without hurting. Occasional time-outs may be okay but if you are issuing frequent time-outs you are doing it very wrong. Most of the times when children misbehave, they actually have the burden of emotions they find hard to carry. Hence, they misbehave. That’s the time when you should connect with them and try to empathize rather than putting them in time-out. This is the matter of calculation.

Having that said, there are a few things that you can do in order to guide your kids without punishing.

Manage your own emotions

The reason most of us get aggressive while parenting is that we find it very hard to manage our own big feelings and anger. Hence, children seem to be the soft victims. And when they misbehave, we find it more than logical, in fact crucial, to ‘correct’ their mistakes. But, it’s quite easy to manage your emotions. You can start by taking deep breathe while getting your focus off the disturbing matters.

Empathize with the kid’s feelings

When the kid gets overwhelmed by adrenaline, he acts out. During that time, the kid’s ability to learn things get hampered until the flow of these negative emotion hormones is contained. So, the best practice here is to help your kid in containing these hormones. You can connect with your kid more in order to empathize with the big feelings he would have at that moment. It is the wonderful trick which works almost always.

Provide support

What is it that children need to learn things they should learn? Yes, it’s the teaching that you provide, but it’s also the support which your kids would need in order to let those teachings program their minds. Consider the process of potty training. You wouldn’t get harsh while training your kid for that. In fact, you are going to provide complete and consistent support until the kid learns about it ideally. Follow the same lead in other matters too. When the child shows lack of discipline, it’s not something he should be punished for. It’s just the matter of something which he didn’t learn. So you need to teach your kid while ensuring him that you are there for him.

Set limits with empathy

When we talk about disciplining the kids, it’s always about making them follow the limits. Hence, you will need to tell them the limits they should stay within. It’s true that children may have their own perspectives about the things and those perspectives can possibly tell the kids to not follow the limits. All you need to do here is acknowledging their perspectives and convince them why the limits you are going to set are in their best interest.

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Best Ways to Create Homework Space

Generally, it is believed that homework is the most dreaded part of the children’s life and if your kids happen to fall into the category, you will probably have to work on maintaining a good routine in addition to creating a homework space. This is not to say that children are not interested in getting done with the homework or that they like power wheel over school work because some of the children are aware of the importance, yet they find it hard to complete it or when it comes to resisting the urge to delay the homework tasks. This means that parents can play a significant role in terms of creating conducive ambiance for the children and regulating the daily routine to help with homework. If one takes into account the value of a good space for doing homework, it can be quite impactful; this means the role of following tips will prove beneficial for all the parents out there.

Choosing the Space

To begin with, if you know how to choose the right space for the homework, it could make the very task of completing the homework easily. This means that if you know about the preferences of your children in form of learning, you would be in a better position to guide them. For example, some of the kids are good at working in the middle of the room or in the presence of other family members, while some of the children struggle with noise or people. Therefore, they work best in a quiet environment. The main aim is to figure out the nature of your child in addition to finding the perfect spot for their homework. Some of the successful cases showed the inclination towards setting up a homework space in the bedroom or basement. In simple words, the disposition of your child and result of the child in school assignments may help you in deciding on this important issue.

Role of Fun

The second step is to work on the factors, which may make the homework space exciting for the children. For instance, the décor of the space can be enhanced to help the child with the concentration in addition to adding elements relevant to the studies. The main point is to keep your child interested in addition to making them feel comfortable so that they would be able to give the best. Moreover, if your child is low on motivation, you can add some posters or quotes to boost the confidence in studies and to underscore the value of homework. However, if you add too many factors into the space area, you may increase the chance of getting distracted. Therefore, it is important to remain balanced when it comes to going overboard or leaving the space completely blank or bland for the child.

Organizing

Children tend to struggle at organizing the tools related to homework station, it is, therefore, necessary that you provide them with the things to keep the clutter away, as it may make the process of completing homework hard for the children. Moreover, if you kid is not organized, it may become difficult for them to find relevant tools to finish the tasks at home. This means that organization skills can make a huge difference and if your child is already good at them, the end result of the homework will be improved many times.

Perfect Temperature

It may sound a little irrelevant to you in the beginning but if you provide an environment to the child that is completely opposite to the body temperature or if it is not in sync with the overall temperature and ambiance, the child will start to get restless. In other words, a focused mind requires a good or suitable temperature to function properly. Hence, it is best to take note of the outside temperature so that the internal dynamics would complement. In addition, if you work on the seemingly small aspects, it can prove to be contributing factor.

Lighting

The value of light is another crucial factor, as it is not only pertinent for concentration but if the lights are too dim, your child may fall asleep or find the tasks hard to complete. However, if the light is bright enough for focusing on the homework in addition to providing full control to the child over the reading and other assignments, the homework assignments will seem less hard to the children. Furthermore, if you provide the option of the lamp at night for light reading or reference material, the child will be facilitated to a large extent.

Design of the Study Table

Though there are standardized study tables available in the market, however, if your child has specific needs or if you want them to have a personalized experience, you can take their input for creating or ordering the perfect study table. For instance, if the size of the normal study table is small, you can customize it or change the width and measurements to suit the dynamics of the house and routine of your child. In the same way, some of the children like to have a study table, which has many drawers in order to store and manage the study related items.

Timing

istock_19056537_wideIn addition to the materialistic things, it is good to maintain a good study routine to make your children good at homework assignments. For instance, if you can help them multitask the reading time with the urgent assignments, the overall routine and clashing assignment or tasks will become relatively easy for the children. Furthermore, the value of time should be taught to the children to make the most of the time. For example, if you encourage the children to make time for the assignments and finish them within a limit, it would help to push them to increase their capacity to deal with the deadlines and pressures. This is not to say that being authoritative is good, but if the child is made aware of the consequences of the late assignments, the tendency to put things off can be improved.